To Anyone, Anywhere, Who is Rebuilding Their Life:
You are awesome. No, no, don't roll your eyes. You are AWESOME. No one is going to ever know what you are going through, how huge getting up in the morning sometimes is. They just don't get it. And that's wicked unfair, and might make you want to cry all day, or scream and rage, and you know what? That's okay too. DO it. Cry your eyes out. Punch a pillow and pretend it's someone else. Hell, punch a pillow and pretend it's you. Do what you need to do.
Don't hurt yourself. You've already been through so much. You're rebuilding, and that doesn't take a day, it doesn't take ANY kind of time frame. It is what it is, and it'll take as long as it needs to. That's okay! Whether it's a divorce, a breakup, an addiction, a mental illness, a death…These are enormous things, and anyone who says "get over it" or "snap out of it" doesn't get it. They just don't get it.
A broken heart. That can come in many forms, yes? Yes. You're better than that. You're going to pull through, cause that's what you deserve. No one is going to be harder on you than you are on yourself. People can wax poetic about how you have to hurry up and heal, come on, pull yourself up by your bootstraps, he's not worth it, she's not worth it, the person who died or had to leave wouldn't want you to feel this way, all of it. All the rah rah bullshit cheerleading. They mean well. They do, even if it makes you feel worse. They don't know. They just don't get it.
A broken heart will heal. YOU will heal. It might take longer than you want, longer than seems possible, but you WILL HEAL. And man, if someone is holding you back from that? Ditch them. Do it. They're not worth it, they're an emotional vampire, sucking the will to live out of you. Get rid of them.
Oh god, it's hard. It's so hard. But you CAN do it. You will. And it will take as long as it needs to. Don't blame yourself. "But it's my fault!" Maybe you did do something. Maybe you didn't. But it's your heart we're talking about. And you owe it to yourself to take care of yourself.
Take care of yourself. Eat that pint of ice cream. Stay in bed for a week if you have to. Do what you need to do, just don't give up. Don't hurt yourself. Rebuild. Live. Those people who love you will be there. And those people who don't? Who hurt you, who made you cry and rage and scream to the sky "Why, why, WHY???" They're going to still exist in your heart. But you're going to rebuild. You are. Because you? Are worth it. Your happiness is worth it. Your health is worth it. Your life is worth it.
My heart is broken today. And it will be tomorrow. And words and actions and inactions will stay. They'll stay in my broken heart. But I got up today. I stood up, I washed the tear streaks off my face, and I'll carry on. Broken, but not forever. Down, but I'll get up. So will you. Yes, you will. Yes, I will.
Hold on. Just hold on.